Yesterday, a dear friend told me about how hard it is to leave through this season of so much family stuff when her family of origin was the source of intense, prolonged abuse and a continued world of denial.
Someone else I love feels a profound level of anxiety associated with the travel that often comes this time of year.
Others of us – me included – miss people so intensely that even the best moments come with an ache of absence.
We miss people. We wish our families were different, more healthy, more complete, more like Hallmark. We ache for partners or children. We want to slow down or speed up just to get past the first of January.
So if this is you this season, may I be a small voice of affirmation. May you find the space you need to grieve, to ache, to wish, to rest, to seek, to find, to hope, and even to fear. May you be surrounded by people who give you this space and who trust that your hurt doesn’t need to dampen their joy. May you see light in the tiniest of candles, and may the shadows grow smaller in that light.
Most of all, may you know you are loved, deeply and richly, for all of who you are in these hard days.
We are doing a little holiday giveaway on Instagram and Facebook. You can win a set of our farm mugs, a packet of seeds from our garden, an electronic copy of my book God’s Whisper Manifesto, and a code for a 30% discount at our Etsy shop.